Post by prouvaire on Apr 10, 2014 16:22:12 GMT -6
"until they're old enough to decide for themselves"
I've seen a couple people with this mentality. And idk, I don't know if I agree with this. I think it's fine to use the pronoun affiliated with your child's biological sex, just because it really is more statistically likely that their gender will in fact match said biological sex. I think it'd be best to assign unisex names, but it's still fine to name them typically feminine or masculine names, or to dress them as their biological sex while they are unable to comprehend clothing. I just think that kids should be taught that it's okay to change their pronouns or names, should they become conscious enough to wish it. Like, once they start understanding things, then you can start having them make their own decisions and if it looks like they're swinging towards one gender, then you start encouraging them in a positive manner. You know, tell them it's fine if they want to stay their assigned gender, but also tell them that if they want to change, that's okay too. Because the important thing is not to teach children uncertainty, but to teach them flexibility.
I see parents getting hate for "imposing gender roles on their infants" and I think there's a real difference between assuming gender and forcing gender upon someone. When a child is born, you assume they will grow up with their gender matching their biological sex, just because they probably will be, but you have to be willing to make adjustments if that assumption proves to be wrong. I think it's cute when parents dress their little girls up in dresses and bows, and if they're open minded enough to listen if their children decide they don't want to be that gender, then there shouldn't be an issue. I don't hate my parents for putting me in dresses, because I wasn't able to comprehend the concept of gender, and that's okay.
idk I mean I guess it's okay to let your child remain genderless until they can decide for themselves, if at all? But I've been really skeptical because people who think like that often berate parents who do assume their children's genders. Because assuming your child's gender doesn't make you any less of a parent as long as you're willing to support your child no matter what they turn out to be.
I've seen a couple people with this mentality. And idk, I don't know if I agree with this. I think it's fine to use the pronoun affiliated with your child's biological sex, just because it really is more statistically likely that their gender will in fact match said biological sex. I think it'd be best to assign unisex names, but it's still fine to name them typically feminine or masculine names, or to dress them as their biological sex while they are unable to comprehend clothing. I just think that kids should be taught that it's okay to change their pronouns or names, should they become conscious enough to wish it. Like, once they start understanding things, then you can start having them make their own decisions and if it looks like they're swinging towards one gender, then you start encouraging them in a positive manner. You know, tell them it's fine if they want to stay their assigned gender, but also tell them that if they want to change, that's okay too. Because the important thing is not to teach children uncertainty, but to teach them flexibility.
I see parents getting hate for "imposing gender roles on their infants" and I think there's a real difference between assuming gender and forcing gender upon someone. When a child is born, you assume they will grow up with their gender matching their biological sex, just because they probably will be, but you have to be willing to make adjustments if that assumption proves to be wrong. I think it's cute when parents dress their little girls up in dresses and bows, and if they're open minded enough to listen if their children decide they don't want to be that gender, then there shouldn't be an issue. I don't hate my parents for putting me in dresses, because I wasn't able to comprehend the concept of gender, and that's okay.
idk I mean I guess it's okay to let your child remain genderless until they can decide for themselves, if at all? But I've been really skeptical because people who think like that often berate parents who do assume their children's genders. Because assuming your child's gender doesn't make you any less of a parent as long as you're willing to support your child no matter what they turn out to be.
